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Tradition Isn’t Always Right May 15, 2009

The other day I came across an article in the Christian Science Monitor about one of the two first female Islamic judges in the Middle East.  The article focused on Khouloud el-Faqeeh who is Palestinian. She is described as not only being exceptional in her knowledge (top in her class at Jerusalem’s Al-Quds University and one of the highest scorers out of 45 people in the qualifying sharia judge exam) but she’s also a straight arrow; she won’t bend the rules for anyone.  Pretty fantastic.

But there was one thing in the article that annoyed me.  It was the view that women are ‘too emotional’ to take on such a position.

Sheikh Hamed Bitawi, who’s the head of the Association of Islamic Scholars and Scientists,  said that there are two schools of thought on the issue: that every position but that of a caliph is open to women, and that women are too emotional to make legal decisions – as judges or as witnesses.

“I am of the second view because I consider women to be gentle human beings who should not be subjected to difficult situations or difficult decisions,” Mr. Bitawi says. “They cry easily, and hence their judgment is tainted with emotions. Moreover, lawyers are difficult to deal with and people who come to courts are angry and violent.”

Give me a break.  I’ve heard this perspective before and for the life of me I still can’t believe why people continue to buy into this archaic and stereotypical argument.  As if men aren’t emotional?  Men indeed are emotional. One could also make the stereotypical argument that men tend to have a short fuse and they consequently yell, scream or react violently.  Therefore, they too are ‘tainted with emotions.’  Would that make them a better judge?  Of course not.  That’s why one’s qualification shouldn’t be based on gender but by their individual abilities.

El-Faqeeh explained that “In Islam, it says a sharia judge has to be a Muslim, rational adult” – not necessarily a man.  Whenever I would discuss this with the chief judge, he would say, ‘This is tradition.’ ”

I’m all about tradition. But when it comes to professional matters, sometimes tradition counters common sense and what’s right and that needs to be corrected.  As el-Faqeeh said “I’m a legal person, and, to me, legal issues are stronger than tradition.” Case closed.

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Some Arab Chicks Need To Put Down The Makeup And Walk Away February 2, 2009

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Some Arab women just need to lay off of the makeup.  I don’t know why some feel the need to pile it on.  The eye lids on some women look like a freshly painted rainbow on a plain canvas.  Of course, it’s not just Arab women who are guilty of this but since I am an Arab chick I feel compelled to point out this kind of offense made by fellow Arab women.  It’s both younger and older women who are at fault.  Now, this has been my opinion for a very long time.  But I just happened to come across another case of over application recently that prompted me to write this

There’s certainly nothing wrong with wearing makeup.  Many women prefer to put their “face” on before they walk out the door.  They want to look pretty and put together.  I must confess that I’m not one of these people.  I’m pretty low maintenance and only wear makeup when there’s a special occasion or event I’m attending.  However, I have no qualms with wanting to wear makeup. What I do have a problem with is the over-the-top makeup in which every centimeter of a woman’s face is covered up and, in some cases, looks like a Halloween mask.  I think we all know someone who’s guilty of this.  As my friend would say, these women look like they belong on LBC (Lebanese Broadcasting Corporation).  One look at any female presenter on that channel and you’ll know what she means.

I think less makeup is more beautiful.  The more people see your natural beauty the better.  I feel that the more makeup you pile on the more you want to hide of yourself.  And if you’re a single chick looking for a potential mate, piling it on will only fool them.  That may sound harsh but I’m keepin’ it real.  If you think you’re not good looking (which nobody should think that about themselves) putting on makeup to hide that insecurity only makes the problem worse.  I mean, at least if you keep it natural a guy will know what you really look like and will love you the way you are.  If you choose to hide under a mask of makeup, you’ll only shock the guy and probably scare him out of the relationship when you eventually go au naturale.  Let’s face it.  Some women look shockingly different with and without makeup.  Oprah Winfrey is a prime example.  Yikes!oprah_beforeafter

I really don’t believe that putting on a lot of makeup is healthy.  Those women who choose to wear lots of  it and those who never really take it off, I think, have serious issues. And I wonder if men who know or are in relationships with these women care?  I would think most would find it off putting. I know when I see a woman with this kind of makeup on, if I’m to be completely honest, I immediately judge them as being (justly or unjustly) superficial. And guys who are into that sort of thing might be superficial as well.  That’s just me.  I know I’m probably offending a lot women out there but I’m just being honest.

I’m curious to wonder what you all think.  Am I the only one who feels this way?

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