I don’t know what it’s been about this summer but it seems adversity has been lurking around every corner. Whether it’s in one’s personal or professional life, adversity doesn’t discriminate. We all face it in our lives, and it can be a total bitch, but it’s in how we deal with it that matters.
When we’re going through tough times we tend to ask ourselves ‘why is this happening to me?’ or ‘how am I going to get through this?’ Loved ones will tell you not to worry, things will be fine. They’ll tell you that you may be worried now but things will always end up working themselves out. Sometimes it’s comforting to hear those words but other times, when you’re on the verge of having a nervous breakdown, it’s just annoying.
We’ve all been there, feeling sad and confused like Taylor Swift at the VMA’s, thinking to yourself ‘what the hell just happened?’ Just when you think you’re having your moment in the spotlight, your moment of achievement, your moment of joy and happiness–just when things start to look up–it all comes crashing down. You think, ‘this isn’t how I planned it…I don’t deserve this!’ It’s sad when bad things happen to good people. It sucks, actually. I don’t know why it happens but people of faith will tell you that God doesn’t give us more than we can handle. But I can’t help but think why does it have to hurt so bad?
The great Arab-American poet, Kahlil Gibran, once said that “out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” Of course, since we all face adversity we all have the scars to prove it, though some of us have more of them and ones that run far deeper than others. What I wonder is how many scars can one person endure before it becomes too much? Is there ever too much?
Like the saying goes, what doesn’t kill you will only make you stronger. The problem is some of us spend most of our time worrying about what will kill us. Sadly, that only ends up holding us back from enjoying and appreciating a lot in life.
I think deep down we all know that somehow we’ll get through difficult times. Just the mere passing of time helps and, of course, the love and support from friends and family is vital. It’ll be those who are there for you and by your side during the difficult times that truly care.
For Muslims, the holy month of Ramadan is coming to an end. It’s a time when, amongst other things, we are to be thankful to God, as always, for what we do have in our lives. I’ll do my best to always keep that in my head and my heart, no matter how difficult the times, and say alhamdulillah.